My sweet,loving best friend Dante is gone - Page 2

jeffers · 12-29-2009, 02:55 PM

i am so sorry to hear about tj and i know that theres not a lot that others say will make u feel any better. it is a hard road to travel and now after 6 months i still miss my grand old lady as if it was yesterday. i wish you all the very best and hope the good memories you have will help to ease the pain

dryan777 · 01-08-2010, 12:37 PM

TJ,
How are you doing now? I just read your post about your Dante. I didn't realize that when you wrote to me. I am so sorry. I know when Kobe was in surgery to have his prostate removed, we didn't know if he would make it through. The house was so empty, and everywhere we would turn there was something that reminded us of Kobe. His paw marks on the patio and grass, his toy box in the backyard, him coming through the doggie door to greet us when we open the garage door, etc. I sure hope you are doing better, and I sympathize with you in your loss.

TJandDante · 01-08-2010, 07:20 PM

I wish I could say I am doing well. Some days are better than others, there are just so many reminders. I am so glad we have his ashes-we put up a shelf in the corner of the living room where his bed was and on a red fleece cloth sits his urn, in his corner-surrounded by his collar and leash,his squeaky toys and his brush and a "fake flame" candle and a picture of him on his bed. It was and always will be Dante's corner of the room.

The grief really just hits you in waves-just when you think you are doing okay. It still amazes me how much capacity we have for loving these animals,and the deep sense of loss when they are no longer a part of our lives.

Thank you so much for asking.
TJ

mybestfriend · 01-08-2010, 08:13 PM

Dear Tj, It does get easier, not to say after 8+ months since Dasha, that a first without her doesn't cause tears. It has been just a short time ago and you need more time. Don't rush thru the grieving no matter what anyone tells you.

TJandDante · 01-16-2010, 08:31 PM

You are all right, it does get better. I may have a few gentle tears every day but the sobbing, empty hole in my heart grief has lifted a good bit. I wondered if I was going to cry my heart out all day every day there for a while. I have a new baby granddaughter I was not even enjoying like I should because of my depression, but I have gotten over the guilt I felt for having to put my sweet Dante to sleep. Now that I have had 4 weeks to think about it, I have no doubt it was the right thing at the right time. You second-guess yourself so much but when you really get a chance to think and reflect,its better.
The only thing I wish is that I would dream about him, or dream that I hear his bark or touch his head, but I dont. Not once. We have had a couple of signs that he is okay over that rainbow brodge, but I miss his sweet face and that perpetually wagging tail.
Thank you all for your support. Don't let this group go silent-it's too important especially for all the new people I see have joined.
TJ

01-08-2010, 08:13 PM	#14 (permalink)
mybestfriend Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Niagara Falls, NY Posts: 189	Dear Tj, It does get easier, not to say after 8+ months since Dasha, that a first without her doesn't cause tears. It has been just a short time ago and you need more time. Don't rush thru the grieving no matter what anyone tells you. __________________ Rene, Bailey,Angel, Dolce and Jim Remembering "Daddy's girl Dasha"

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12-29-2009, 02:55 PM	#11 (permalink)
jeffers Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Posts: 219	i am so sorry to hear about tj and i know that theres not a lot that others say will make u feel any better. it is a hard road to travel and now after 6 months i still miss my grand old lady as if it was yesterday. i wish you all the very best and hope the good memories you have will help to ease the pain

01-08-2010, 12:37 PM	#12 (permalink)
dryan777 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Brea, CA Posts: 9	TJ, How are you doing now? I just read your post about your Dante. I didn't realize that when you wrote to me. I am so sorry. I know when Kobe was in surgery to have his prostate removed, we didn't know if he would make it through. The house was so empty, and everywhere we would turn there was something that reminded us of Kobe. His paw marks on the patio and grass, his toy box in the backyard, him coming through the doggie door to greet us when we open the garage door, etc. I sure hope you are doing better, and I sympathize with you in your loss.

01-08-2010, 07:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
TJandDante Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 355	I wish I could say I am doing well. Some days are better than others, there are just so many reminders. I am so glad we have his ashes-we put up a shelf in the corner of the living room where his bed was and on a red fleece cloth sits his urn, in his corner-surrounded by his collar and leash,his squeaky toys and his brush and a "fake flame" candle and a picture of him on his bed. It was and always will be Dante's corner of the room. The grief really just hits you in waves-just when you think you are doing okay. It still amazes me how much capacity we have for loving these animals,and the deep sense of loss when they are no longer a part of our lives. Thank you so much for asking. TJ

01-16-2010, 08:31 PM	#15 (permalink)
TJandDante Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 355	You are all right, it does get better. I may have a few gentle tears every day but the sobbing, empty hole in my heart grief has lifted a good bit. I wondered if I was going to cry my heart out all day every day there for a while. I have a new baby granddaughter I was not even enjoying like I should because of my depression, but I have gotten over the guilt I felt for having to put my sweet Dante to sleep. Now that I have had 4 weeks to think about it, I have no doubt it was the right thing at the right time. You second-guess yourself so much but when you really get a chance to think and reflect,its better. The only thing I wish is that I would dream about him, or dream that I hear his bark or touch his head, but I dont. Not once. We have had a couple of signs that he is okay over that rainbow brodge, but I miss his sweet face and that perpetually wagging tail. Thank you all for your support. Don't let this group go silent-it's too important especially for all the new people I see have joined. TJ