my grand old lady

jeffers · 12-29-2009, 01:32 PM

loved and missed every day the ache in my heart gets no easier. cassie my best friend in my heart forever. this has been the worst christmas i have known

Benpaws · 12-29-2009, 04:19 PM

Dear Friend,

I am sure that Christmas had an emptiness because it was you first one in over 17 years without your beloved Cassie sitting with you and enjoying the season. However, you must know that she is watching over you every moment and wants you to be happy and enjoy your life with your new friend, Focca.

None of us is guaranteed tomorrow and that it why it is so important to grab onto each moment we have with our health and love the people and pets in our lives.

We missed our Benny also but Shadow enjoyed every gift being opened and when he opened his new teddy bear, he just lay on it and fell asleep, comforted in knowing that it was for him and he was surrounded with people who loved him so very much. I KNOW that Benny was with us in spirit and always in our hearts.

"Write in your heart that every day is the best day of the year. Yesterday is ashes; tomorrow wood. Only today does the fire burn brightly."

Blessings,
Joanne and Shadow2009_1203Image0219.jpg

TJandDante · 12-29-2009, 05:05 PM

I can't imagine the pain you are going through, having your beloved dog for 17years. That is twice as long as I had Dante, and I can't even fathom the pain of losing him after all that time if it hurts this bad after 8 1/2 years of knowing and loving him.
Hope the New Year brings peace and comfort to all of us who have had a loss, and those who are going through the troubles we had just recently.
TJ

Benpaws · 12-30-2009, 08:27 AM

Dear TJ,

You are just starting out on the journey with Dante gone from your physical life and yes, the pain is dreadful. It is such an ache deep within your very being. After Benny died, I would go upstairs and pray beside the bed and just sob into his blanket where his sweet scent still lingered. I would hold his favourite toy, the "lion puppet" and sob and sob for ages.

His bed by the fire is still as he left it with his red blanket and his name embroidered on it and I can still see him lying there with his little grey head peeking over the edge making sure I was not far away.

Benny came into my life when things were not going very well and I was depressed and he was just the "medicine" I needed. We went for long walks together and I would talk to him and he would tilt his little head as if he understood every word I was saying. He would never leave my side when I was feeling down and gave me those "puppy sighs" when I kissed his little grey head. He licked away my tears.

"Cancer" stole my best friend even though I did everything in my power to save him. My journey is getting easier after almost 10 months and Shadow is an amazing puppy and very much a part of my heart, but having gone through those months with Benny really were difficult. We would get our hopes up when a tumour appeared to be getting smaller and he had energy and was happy. Then there were the down days, and he was tired and the tumours opened and bled and his ears would go back and he would sigh quietly and go into his bed. Then the tumours got too uncomfortable to rest in the bed anymore and he would lie beside it and put his head on the edge.

I am so sorry that you and everyone here will have to take this terrible journey. It is very difficult and tears at your heartstrings.

You will miss Dante forever as I will my Benny. Tears will flow and then you will have good days and remember the fun times. Dante will be in your thoughts forever and certain things will bring back memories of when he was with you and then the tears start all over again as well as the smiles.

Grief is a different thing for everyone and for some it lasts a lifetime, but time does ease the pain.

We each have our own stories about our precious best friend and they each filled a special place in our lives for a certain number of years and to each of us they were the "best dog" in the whole world because we each knew what an impact they made in our daily lives and they gave us a reason for "being."

My prayers go out to you, but we all understand how you are feeling. Take care of yourself. It is not easy at all when you have loved a pet for a number of years and then lose them to something as dreadful as cancer.

I CARE!

Love, Joanne

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mybestfriend · 12-30-2009, 09:54 PM

Dear Jeffers, I understand the empty feeling you have. This was my first Christmas without my Dasha. As I watched Bailey, Angel,and Dolce playing on Christmas Eve my mind was thinking of her. It was not easy for me without her being by my side. I did however find some peace this Christmas at about 1 am. I went outside and looked into the sky and said my prayers and spoke to Dasha like she was next to me. The warmth I felt go thru me let me know that she may not be here in body but she was and always will be with me in spirit. I am convinced that when my days on earth are over we all will be greeted by our special fur babies and will once again be reunited.

jeffers · 12-31-2009, 12:58 PM

thankyou all very much for your kind words.. and i wish you all a much better 2010. i realise that i had my girl for 17yrs which is much longer than some of you had your babes and feel a bit down that i am wallowing in self pity when you have all been so brave........ i know i can never have her back and must concentrate on my little fokka who idolises me. i hope we all have a much better year and thanx for your support

Benpaws · 12-31-2009, 06:47 PM

Dear Friend,
It matters not if we have our precious buddies with us for on 18 months or 18 years. They get into our very souls from the moment we look into those big brown eyes and are the reason we have to go on and keep on keeping on.

Losing Cassie after 17 years was beyond sad and I am so glad you have found Fokka, who idolizes you and gives back so much. Cassie wants you to love Fokka and Cassie is right there in your heart FOREVER as Benny is in mine!

I hope none of us ever has to go through this "cancer thing" again with our pups.

All the best in 2010.

In Friendship,
Joanne & Shadow

jeffers · 01-06-2010, 11:38 AM

thank you so much for your support........

12-29-2009, 01:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
jeffers Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Posts: 219	my grand old lady loved and missed every day the ache in my heart gets no easier. cassie my best friend in my heart forever. this has been the worst christmas i have known

12-29-2009, 04:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
Benpaws Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Oakville, ON., CANADA Posts: 1,696	Cassie Dear Friend, I am sure that Christmas had an emptiness because it was you first one in over 17 years without your beloved Cassie sitting with you and enjoying the season. However, you must know that she is watching over you every moment and wants you to be happy and enjoy your life with your new friend, Focca. None of us is guaranteed tomorrow and that it why it is so important to grab onto each moment we have with our health and love the people and pets in our lives. We missed our Benny also but Shadow enjoyed every gift being opened and when he opened his new teddy bear, he just lay on it and fell asleep, comforted in knowing that it was for him and he was surrounded with people who loved him so very much. I KNOW that Benny was with us in spirit and always in our hearts. "Write in your heart that every day is the best day of the year. Yesterday is ashes; tomorrow wood. Only today does the fire burn brightly." Blessings, Joanne and Shadow2009_1203Image0219.jpg Last edited by Benpaws; 12-29-2009 at 04:22 PM.

12-30-2009, 08:27 AM	#4 (permalink)
Benpaws Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Oakville, ON., CANADA Posts: 1,696	TJ Dear TJ, You are just starting out on the journey with Dante gone from your physical life and yes, the pain is dreadful. It is such an ache deep within your very being. After Benny died, I would go upstairs and pray beside the bed and just sob into his blanket where his sweet scent still lingered. I would hold his favourite toy, the "lion puppet" and sob and sob for ages. His bed by the fire is still as he left it with his red blanket and his name embroidered on it and I can still see him lying there with his little grey head peeking over the edge making sure I was not far away. Benny came into my life when things were not going very well and I was depressed and he was just the "medicine" I needed. We went for long walks together and I would talk to him and he would tilt his little head as if he understood every word I was saying. He would never leave my side when I was feeling down and gave me those "puppy sighs" when I kissed his little grey head. He licked away my tears. "Cancer" stole my best friend even though I did everything in my power to save him. My journey is getting easier after almost 10 months and Shadow is an amazing puppy and very much a part of my heart, but having gone through those months with Benny really were difficult. We would get our hopes up when a tumour appeared to be getting smaller and he had energy and was happy. Then there were the down days, and he was tired and the tumours opened and bled and his ears would go back and he would sigh quietly and go into his bed. Then the tumours got too uncomfortable to rest in the bed anymore and he would lie beside it and put his head on the edge. I am so sorry that you and everyone here will have to take this terrible journey. It is very difficult and tears at your heartstrings. You will miss Dante forever as I will my Benny. Tears will flow and then you will have good days and remember the fun times. Dante will be in your thoughts forever and certain things will bring back memories of when he was with you and then the tears start all over again as well as the smiles. Grief is a different thing for everyone and for some it lasts a lifetime, but time does ease the pain. We each have our own stories about our precious best friend and they each filled a special place in our lives for a certain number of years and to each of us they were the "best dog" in the whole world because we each knew what an impact they made in our daily lives and they gave us a reason for "being." My prayers go out to you, but we all understand how you are feeling. Take care of yourself. It is not easy at all when you have loved a pet for a number of years and then lose them to something as dreadful as cancer. I CARE! Love, Joanne 2006_0530Image0123.jpg

12-30-2009, 09:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
mybestfriend Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Niagara Falls, NY Posts: 189	Dear Jeffers, I understand the empty feeling you have. This was my first Christmas without my Dasha. As I watched Bailey, Angel,and Dolce playing on Christmas Eve my mind was thinking of her. It was not easy for me without her being by my side. I did however find some peace this Christmas at about 1 am. I went outside and looked into the sky and said my prayers and spoke to Dasha like she was next to me. The warmth I felt go thru me let me know that she may not be here in body but she was and always will be with me in spirit. I am convinced that when my days on earth are over we all will be greeted by our special fur babies and will once again be reunited. __________________ Rene, Bailey,Angel, Dolce and Jim Remembering "Daddy's girl Dasha"

12-31-2009, 06:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
Benpaws Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Oakville, ON., CANADA Posts: 1,696	Cassie Dear Friend, It matters not if we have our precious buddies with us for on 18 months or 18 years. They get into our very souls from the moment we look into those big brown eyes and are the reason we have to go on and keep on keeping on. Losing Cassie after 17 years was beyond sad and I am so glad you have found Fokka, who idolizes you and gives back so much. Cassie wants you to love Fokka and Cassie is right there in your heart FOREVER as Benny is in mine! I hope none of us ever has to go through this "cancer thing" again with our pups. All the best in 2010. In Friendship, Joanne & Shadow

12-29-2009, 05:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
TJandDante Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 355	I can't imagine the pain you are going through, having your beloved dog for 17years. That is twice as long as I had Dante, and I can't even fathom the pain of losing him after all that time if it hurts this bad after 8 1/2 years of knowing and loving him. Hope the New Year brings peace and comfort to all of us who have had a loss, and those who are going through the troubles we had just recently. TJ

12-31-2009, 12:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
jeffers Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Posts: 219	thankyou all very much for your kind words.. and i wish you all a much better 2010. i realise that i had my girl for 17yrs which is much longer than some of you had your babes and feel a bit down that i am wallowing in self pity when you have all been so brave........ i know i can never have her back and must concentrate on my little fokka who idolises me. i hope we all have a much better year and thanx for your support

01-06-2010, 11:38 AM	#8 (permalink)
jeffers Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Posts: 219	thank you so much for your support........

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