GemBem

I cant believe I cant have her back..I have a box...a very nice box with Ebony's name on it...but its not her..Ive put her picture by it so i can look...I just want her back..I need her here so so much, because at time like these she was always here...her happy face when I come down the stairs or come home from work..when Im upset....I miss her smell and when she finds her red ball...I have yet to find where she last left that...I know its under the sofa..but I cant bring myself to look. I gradually took her bowl away for the girls....now Lena's eating next to Gem...that was blooming hard..taking Mummy's things away. I called her mummy after she had pups...she liked that name and all the other ones...Ebony, Ebs, Ebbles bebbles...Ebsy..oooo and tart..she was very flirty..she would stretch and wag her tail..she did like the men....Now I think back...I can remember us trying to give her a bath....my partners decision ...he said the dogs smelt....not a dog man....me and my son lifted her into the bath....this was around 6 months ago...she groaned in pain....I just thought she was getting old ..how wrong could I have been...I know it will get better...12 days after ..still lost and empty xxxxx

Raymond

Give yourself plenty of time to grieve. You will get caught off guard when you least expect- reminders out of nowhere- then the tears. Been almost 2 years since I lost my Larry boy and I still have those moments. God Bless.

Benpaws

Dear Friend,
Thanks for sharing your feelings with us. It is important to get those feelings out and share them with others who truly understand. The first few weeks after the loss is very sad and tears flow readily. I still have my moments when I remember Benny and I still have not washed his red blanket in his bed by the fire. I can still smell his scent on it and therefore, he remains there even though I cannot see him. I also left his toys in his toy basket and now Shadow plays with them. There is a rainbow after the rain.

As Raymond says: "Give yourself time." Days and weeks turn into months and it gets a little easier with time. So glad you have Gem and your other puppy to keep you company. Nobody will ever replace Ebony, but she will remain always in your heart.

Some people here have made living tributes to their best friends whom they lost to cancer. Raymond did a wonderful video for Larry and if you feel you could watch it, it might help you.

In loving memory of my dear, dear companion of 11 years. Larry boy crossed the Rainbow Bridge on December 4th, 2008. I miss him so much I don't know what to do sometimes so I made this little video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-j_JhDHZ5o

Feel free to leave comments on YouTube.

John (Rockytola) wrote a book.
ALL the profits from the book are going to a fund for people who don't have the means to pay for treatment when they get that awful news.


http://paws4ourpals.com/default.aspx


I wrote poetry for my Benny. Every little bit helps us heal a little bit!

Some people do "scrapbooking" or make photo remembrances. Our puppies will live on forever in our hearts and minds.

Blessings and Prayers,
Joanne & Shadow

hershey

It has been 6 weeks since Hershey passed. A little easier but it takes nothing to get me right back to that day and the tears. Then all the positive memories help. I see him in the clouds everyday. I sleep with his picture at night. And just recently removed his bed, bowls and toys. I think my 8 year old is doing better than I am, and this is his first personal loss. They were great buddies. Hershey was here 1st, and wanted to "eat" Evan when we brough him home. Thought he was small game. But they then became the best of buddies. We made a shrine to him in Evans room.

Benpaws

What a lovely idea to make a shrine of Hershey in your son's room. I am sure Evan has been missing his best buddy and this would help to bring him some comfort.

Children do so much better when they have a puppy to love and share their young lives with.

Old people like I, also do so much better when we have a puppy to love. Every dog needs a happy home and our Shadow is such a joy to us. We could not bring Benny back but we had enough love left for another!

Blessings,
Joanne & Shadow

GemBem

Its really nice hearing how people have coped, people are so compassionate on here, Ive never seen it in my lifetime and glad I have found all you caring dog loving people.
I went for a walk with the girls today where I used to bring Ebs as well...saw Gem the daughter going in the spots where Ebs used to like going...Gem just followed her mom...but this time shes doing it on her own...I felt she was there with us again...weird....I have at the moment her ashes and her picture by my bed. Still haven't found that bloody red ball...it did used to go with a bang when she dropped it lol.

Well....her daughter Gem has decided to eat only the red tomatoes off my tomato plant in the garden...was really cute to watch her and I didnt mind, because it reminded me of Ebs...I'm now seeing me Ebs in her daughter, so much now...it does hurt but I know shes here with me...nearly cried writing this...but feel some comfort in it

Benpaws

My Dear Friend,
Gem is doing exactly what our Willie did when he lost his brother Wolfgang. He started to act more like Wolfie every day and took on the dominant role. He also went to the smells he had shared with Wolfgang and it brought peace to my heart knowing that Wolfgang was still very much a part of our lives. Willie helped heal our hearts when Wolfie was no longer with us physically. Dogs are truly amazing!

Every day will get a little better. Take your time and be gentle with your heart.

The people here are just the BEST!!!!

Hugs,
Joanne & Shadow

GemBem

that's true...but im due to have surgery on the 16th....summing wrong with my eye...had pre op stuff done..blood tests etc...my bloods have come back wrong..my white blood cells are to high...ive read it can be from high emotional stress im hoping not the laterxxxxxxxxlike u..it was beautiful seeing it

Shinmen Takezo

GemBem... no you're wrong.
You do get them back... when the pass, they just go and scout ahead for you.
And when your times comes they will be waiting for you paitently and obiedently on the other side with a big toothy smile.

I promise.

Gentle creatures such as ours do not cease to exist.

ST

GemBem

Awwwwwwww that is so sweet, and I know you are right. I feel her everywhere I go and I cant wait to see her again.

kind regards

Joanne