Dante is gone

TJandDante · 12-20-2009, 11:49 AM

I posted in the other area and I can't repeat it. It was the hardest thing next to saying goodbye to my sister and my dad one last time, it's so hard because you have to choose it.

Benpaws · 12-21-2009, 06:05 AM

My Dear Friend,
I have no words to comfort you at this very sad time, only to say I understand how you are feeling and missing your forever best friend Dante. You did EVERYTHING possible for as long as you were able and Dante KNEW that .He had the best home, the best people in his life, all the nutrition and supplements, the best medical care possible to give him quality of life and an ABUNDANCE OF LOVE.
Your attitude and your "hope" kept Dante around for a much longer time, but you still need him and I know the deep feeling of pain within your breaking heart.
You have been so comforting to everyone here and offered so much great advice and hope and this is very unfair right before Christmas when families "bond" together and Dante will be there in spirit but it is not the same thing.
I wish I could take some of your pain away but I cannot. Grief is very personal and you have had to say goodbye to your dear sister and your beloved father, so you know what grieving is like and it feels so awful in the very "pit of your stomach."
My prayers are with you and you did make the right decision for Dante because you love(d) him so very deeply.Such a dreadfully difficult decision to make!
Try and remember all the good times, the times he made you smile, the walks together, the play time and the extra months you gave to him because you loved him so much. He taught you many things and to just appreciate "living in the moment."Dogs live a LIFETIME in every moment they live whereas we humans live within a lifetime. We remember the past, worry about the future, but dogs do not. They trust us completely with their precious lives and they do no expect very much in return and give unconditional love every moment. They are childlike forever and that is what makes it so difficult to say goodbye.My tears are flowing as I write this. This is very hard every time I have to respond to a post like this.
Take time for yourself and your family and take care of your heart.
God does "take the best of the best"and those of us left behind are the ones who continue to feel the pain. Dante is young and healthy again and he will definitely be "your guardian angel as is your sister and your father."

I was hoping I would never have to read this post from you. So sorry, so very sorry.

Blessings & Friendship,
Joanne

mybestfriend · 12-21-2009, 06:18 AM

Dear TJ, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Know you gave Dante the best possible care you could. Dante is in a place where their is no disease or pain running and playing with all the others. You gave him the ultimate gift of love by taking away his pain and suffering. I know your heart is breaking and the pain and hurt is great. Grieve as long as necessary and don't let anyone tell you any different. We will all be here for you when you need us. Take care and you will be in my thoughts and prayers, Jim

TJandDante · 12-22-2009, 07:11 PM

Dante's ashes were delivered to our home today. I held it together at work all day and after I got home, the man brought me his ashes in a heart shaped urn that says "Always in our Hearts". He is on the mantle with a picture of him I took last week, surrounded by his toys on his favorite blanket.
I am hoping for peace and some closure, a new beginning, instead of all this raw pain.
I am glad to have him home where he belongs.
TJ

12-20-2009, 11:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
TJandDante Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 257	Dante is gone I posted in the other area and I can't repeat it. It was the hardest thing next to saying goodbye to my sister and my dad one last time, it's so hard because you have to choose it.

12-21-2009, 06:05 AM	#2 (permalink)
Benpaws Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Oakville, ON., CANADA Posts: 894	Dante My Dear Friend, I have no words to comfort you at this very sad time, only to say I understand how you are feeling and missing your forever best friend Dante. You did EVERYTHING possible for as long as you were able and Dante KNEW that .He had the best home, the best people in his life, all the nutrition and supplements, the best medical care possible to give him quality of life and an ABUNDANCE OF LOVE. Your attitude and your "hope" kept Dante around for a much longer time, but you still need him and I know the deep feeling of pain within your breaking heart. You have been so comforting to everyone here and offered so much great advice and hope and this is very unfair right before Christmas when families "bond" together and Dante will be there in spirit but it is not the same thing. I wish I could take some of your pain away but I cannot. Grief is very personal and you have had to say goodbye to your dear sister and your beloved father, so you know what grieving is like and it feels so awful in the very "pit of your stomach." My prayers are with you and you did make the right decision for Dante because you love(d) him so very deeply.Such a dreadfully difficult decision to make! Try and remember all the good times, the times he made you smile, the walks together, the play time and the extra months you gave to him because you loved him so much. He taught you many things and to just appreciate "living in the moment."Dogs live a LIFETIME in every moment they live whereas we humans live within a lifetime. We remember the past, worry about the future, but dogs do not. They trust us completely with their precious lives and they do no expect very much in return and give unconditional love every moment. They are childlike forever and that is what makes it so difficult to say goodbye.My tears are flowing as I write this. This is very hard every time I have to respond to a post like this. Take time for yourself and your family and take care of your heart. God does "take the best of the best"and those of us left behind are the ones who continue to feel the pain. Dante is young and healthy again and he will definitely be "your guardian angel as is your sister and your father." I was hoping I would never have to read this post from you. So sorry, so very sorry. Blessings & Friendship, Joanne

12-21-2009, 06:18 AM	#3 (permalink)
mybestfriend Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Niagara Falls, NY Posts: 181	Dear TJ, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Know you gave Dante the best possible care you could. Dante is in a place where their is no disease or pain running and playing with all the others. You gave him the ultimate gift of love by taking away his pain and suffering. I know your heart is breaking and the pain and hurt is great. Grieve as long as necessary and don't let anyone tell you any different. We will all be here for you when you need us. Take care and you will be in my thoughts and prayers, Jim __________________ Rene, Bailey,Angel, Dolce and Jim Remembering "Daddy's girl Dasha"

12-22-2009, 07:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
TJandDante Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 257	Dante is home Dante's ashes were delivered to our home today. I held it together at work all day and after I got home, the man brought me his ashes in a heart shaped urn that says "Always in our Hearts". He is on the mantle with a picture of him I took last week, surrounded by his toys on his favorite blanket. I am hoping for peace and some closure, a new beginning, instead of all this raw pain. I am glad to have him home where he belongs. TJ

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