mybestfriend

Today I really am missing my Dasha more than usual. I keep looking at Bailey and Angel playing and keep thinking she should be here. Dasha would have loved Angel. Even though Dasha was almost 10 years old it just doesn't seem fair that cancer took her away from me. Today was very hard on me, almost as bad as the day I said good bye. I wish I could have done more for her and caught it sooner. I catch myself checking Bailey more for any thing out of the normal. I guess when you go thru this ordeal, you do just about anything you can to avoid it again. The sad part is in reality, you have no control over it. The pain and hurt just hits all of a sudden. Does it really get better? It seems like it always will hurt like it is now. I just think that I will never really get over losing her. I have lost pets before but Dasha was so special and we had a very special relationship.

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Rene, Bailey,Angel, Dolce and Jim Remembering "Daddy's girl Dasha"

Raymond

I'm with you buddy, I had one of the days yesterday and it is hanging over today a little. You think you are doing pretty good, then wham.

Kerri

Hi Jim

I know how you are feeling the first 2 months I had 1 day without tears. Then as time went on there were good days and sad days. With the sad days you never know what the trigger is but it suddenly hits you and you feel like you did that very first day.
It’s now been 7 months and it does get better however I still have those days where the tears come, it’s OK. Someone told me Goobie was my heart dog; he left his footprints on my heart, which is why I miss him so much. Boy, were they right…I think Dasha has also left her footprints on your heart.
I think part of it also is the way they left us; before their time it wasn’t fair we wanted more time with our fur pals.
You could now be or still be experiencing the guilt stage of grieving. You must remember each of us, in our own way, did what we thought was right at the time, using what we knew and felt. Each of us tried to do the best we could, and did it with the intention of love.
Dasha & Goobie know how much we loved them and we would have done anything for them. They are now free of pain and playing together on Rainbow Bridge.

In time you need to let the guilt go as Dasha loved you and does not blame you because she knows what is in your heart.
Bailey& Angel will benefit also along with my next fur pal as we will be watching for the signs and pray someday there will be cure for cancer.

(((((HUGS)))))

Kerri

alyson

Hi Jim 5 months yesterday and still hurts like hell! and guilty every time i look at molly and kiss her, as billy was ours, 'first born' we used to say to him, and molly was 'orphan Annie' as she came to us when she was nine months old, she was my Auntie's dog and she was too much for her!!!! my husband is always says for god sake will someone take the batteries out of her as shes a little hipper!!!! Walkies are the worst! as billy would have had me out all day and night! he sometimes used to run to the fairest corner of the field sit down and keep looking left then right looking for other dogs to play with, when i went to him hed run in the other direction as to say 'im not ready yet' and he had a wicked sense of humour, hed only every pooh when there was a crown! we could have been on the fields for ages, then on the way home bingo! we always took him on holiday with us, he loved it! Peter my husband used to dread it as he was worst then a child, he seamed to know when we was nearly there and bark bark n bark, if we got lost which happens all the time, map reading not one of my skills and tom tom not good at country cottages middle of a field, so driving around clueless and dog barking down your ears and impatient husband!!! then when we were on days out, we park in a car park and wham billy would have a pooh in the middle of the car park, normally hed take his time as whats the rush!!!!

Like you my heart is broken but i thank god i did have him and for the way he was.

aly

Benpaws

My Dear Friend,
I sure know what you are saying. I have had a few bad days this week thinking about my Benny and what a unique little dog he was, independent, stubborn, affectionate on his terms and so very LOYAL! He came into my life when my life was not going very well and I so needed a warm, furry friend to stay by my side and Benny did! He knew when I was sad and he never left me alone.
We are picking Shadow up on Saturday and I feel a little guilty in getting another puppy, but I haven't got a lot of years left and I want another furry friend to stand by my side and give me that special love than only a puppy can give.
There is no use in feeling guilty because we all had to make the right decision in the best interests of our dogs. Benny was not going to survive this cancer and it was only going to get worse and leave him with seizures and great distress and he would not have let me live like that, so I owed it to let him go with the dignity with which he had lived every day of his young life. The quotation which I go over and over in my head is:There is a huge hole in my heart where you used to be. I find myself walking around it during the day and falling into it at night. I MISS YOU LIKE HELL!!
Too many tears. God Bless you all for being here for me. I can cry and not feel alone!

Blessings,
Joanne

mybestfriend

Thanks everyone for your help. Today was better than yesterday. I will always miss her and I probably will never get over her. I really believe its because of the cancer. Like I said before, I never thought one of my dogs would get this terrible disease.

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Rene, Bailey,Angel, Dolce and Jim Remembering "Daddy's girl Dasha"

udbasenji@cox.net

Hi Jim,
I understand and appreciate what you are having to come to terms with, having been there so many times myself. Yet, you may ask (as a lot of my friends do!) why do you keep getting dogs!? Those of us who 'play dogs' (showing, obedience, sports) tend to have more dogs in their lives - I'm no exception for I've always had atleast 2 Basenjis, although we averaged 6+ over the course of the last 35 years. Basenjis (an acquired taste) are not for the weak of heart because, they're smarter than we are. And, it's this intellect I find fascinating and one of the reasons I am addicted to the breed. Joanne said it best though - the unconditional love, companionship, unquestionable loyalty and devotion. God's love on this earth. America is a VERY busy place to live and work. Because of our technology, we, as a people, are becoming more and more isolated from each other. Dogs fill in the gaps and we feel connected to something who showers us with the qualities we need but don't get from our fellow humans. We are a social society, much like dog packs, which compliments the relationship we have with our dogs. Dogs fit nicely into our social hierarchy. Take it from me, never feel guilty about welcoming another fuzzy soul into your life. Adding Gracie to the pack was one of the smartest things I did this year! Get another puppy and let the love you have for Dasha infuse this new life. God made us this way - able to share our love over and over again. Cande, Connor, Promise and of course, Gracie.

mybestfriend

Thanks, We did get a King Charles and I just love her. We will never get another rottie just do to the fact that even though I know I shouldn't I would probably compare her to Dasha. Having a different breed makes it easy not to compare her to Dasha. I still have my Bailey who is a rottie and they get along just fine. I will always miss my Dasha and will always remember and be thankful for the time we had together.

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Rene, Bailey,Angel, Dolce and Jim Remembering "Daddy's girl Dasha"

jeffers

i know exactly how you feel as i am going thro the same. i still get welled up after a month now and bouncer is so like her in many ways. she will always be with me like your dasha will with you.

take care

Benpaws

I too am missing Benny and shed a few tears yesterday which marked 13 weeks since his passing. He was one unique little puppy and the months we dealt with his cancer we became closer every day. He will forever be in my heart but I am glad that he did not suffer in the end and left this earth with the same dignity with which he entered our lives.
Shadow is the same breed, but different in many ways. He is very shy and loves to sleep in Benny's bed which warms my heart. Every puppy deserves to be loved and that is what we are doing every day.
I have pictures of all my puppies on the mantle in our family room and the memorial angels given to me by friends and a wonderful REMEMBERING YOU URN with a little tea light in the top which I light every night.
Our puppies who lost their lives to cancer did not deserve to end their lives that way and I think that is why we remember them with tears.
God Bless everyone here.

Blessings,
Joanne